My Valentine: Puppy Love
Who do you love?
Main Entry: puppy love
Function: noun
Date: 1823
Definition: transitory love or affection felt by a child or adolescent
Since 1823 this phrase has been used to dismiss many attractions. I’ve used it myself. But I really wonder how the term gained its definition. If you think about it, it doesn’t make too much sense.
On the average day, as I wander around my apartment my puppy, Snicker, wanders around behind me. At the very least she watches me. She absolutely dotes on me.
She’s follows me from room to room, up and down the stairs repeatedly. When I sit on the couch, she jumps up onto the couch. When I go to the bathroom she follows me and waits outside the door until I’m done. She’s even lying on the floor next to me at this very moment with her head on my foot.
Yeah I know it’s a bit much. But, my point is, she is cheerfully, energetically, and undyingly devoted to me.
The more I think about it the more I don’t think the term puppy love should be associated with transitory, immature or silly love. If anything it should be associated with loyal, endless, cheerful love.
Now I don’t want a fella following me to the bathroom, but I think we could all use some puppy love (especially from the people we love).
I know I needed the puppy love today and I wish you all get some puppy love this Valentine’s Day.
Ugh, I hope it’s just PMS
Anxious, sad, angry, nervous, tired, wired, cranky…
Obviously something is going on. I try to get it out by talking to friends, meditating a bit and now writing (I probably should have tried writing sooner, but you can’t sit down to write while you’re slinging seafood).
I’m freaking out a little bit. My brain keeps circling one topic — the way water circles a drain — and it won’t stop. I’ve looked at it from a multitude of angles and thought of as many solutions as I can, but my brain just won’t put the stupid thing down. Why can’t I concentrate on anything else?
Something that won’t make me anxious…something that will allow me to fall asleep…something that doesn’t make me clench my teeth?
And, maybe the worst part of all this: it isn’t an unfamiliar feeling.
I get like this sometimes. If you have read my blog for a couple of years you may remember a few posts about it from the past.I don’t know what causes the feeling. In the past I usually blamed the “high stress” situations at my job. But really, were they that stressful?
And if it was stress, why am I stressing out so much about this one thing?
Okay, it is about work. And money. And it involves my biggest client at the moment. So there’s that.
I don’t want to think about this so much in a negative way and turn it into something worse than it is because of all the concentrated negative energy — BLAST IT! And the next meeting isn’t until Monday afternoon. If I am thinking about this, like this for the next three days I may just go insane.
Please, God, take this out of my brain. Give me a sweeter drain to circle. Like the class I’m taking to creating love in my life. Or the writing class I’m going to be teaching in March. Or getting my apartment clean. Or even just work while I’m there for the next two days. Something I can actually do something about…sheesh.
A couple of months ago it occurred to me that every now and then I have a few really awful days and then I’ll get my period and think, “Oh, maybe it was just PMS.” And I realized that during the awful days it almost never occurs to me that it might just be PMS. So I resolved to remember that and see if realizing that it might be a common female occurrence could help a little bit.
Well, I remembered. And I really do hope this is just PMS (so that I can feel better without much effort in a few days). But, sadly, realizing it might be PMS doesn’t really help at the moment.
Blast!
First Date Questions
Looks like he likes her and she's laughing. I'd say someone just asked or answered a good first date question.
So I’m going on a date tonight and I’m actually excited about it. And it’s been a long time since a guy asking me out was someone I was actually interested in getting to know better. In fact, over the past few months (maybe years even) the biggest reason most of the guys got a shot is because I didn’t want to accidentally turn down someone who could be the guy just because he didn’t seem very interesting initially.
At least looking back that’s how it seems. I mean, to be fair I was excited about the professor for most of our first date. Until I found out that he wasn’t interested in a “monogamous, long-term relationship.” Great.
That’s right, he told me on like our first date that his plan was actually to date me (and have sex with me) and date several other women — one whom he had already chosen — and sleep with them as well. Now, I’m not a guy, but if dating a girl (and sleeping with her) makes you want to sleep with other women she’s probably not the one — and she probably isn’t very good at sex either. I’m just saying.
And the funniest — and perhaps most tragic — part: I still went on like four more dates with him. I don’t know what I was thinking. Although, upon retrospect, if I had stuck it out one more date maybe he would have fixed the overhead light in my living room like he promised. I wonder if it would have been worth it.
Well, at any rate, I have a first date coming up. That’s my point and I’m excited about and I guess that made me feel like sharing. So, I thought I would commemorate the event with a little participation from the audience. I’d like to know what you all think are good questions to ask someone on a first date. Male or female, but maybe if it’s a gender-specific question let us know.
And I don’t want all of the silly little pedantic things that will come up naturally. I mean good questions that could possibly reveal important things about this guy. (You know, like how many women he plans on sleeping with at any given time.)
For example, I used to always ask, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” And that was usually fun and informative — even once we all became grown-ups (sort of). But with this fella something makes me think it will be out of place.
I also used to ask fellas a two-fold super-hero question, “If you were a superhero, which super hero would you be and why?” And, “If you could be any super hero which super hero would you be, and why?” It seems like the same question for some people, but the nuance is important. The first identifies which superhero the fella is most like currently and the second identifies who he would want to be. It can be a great conversation starter and also reveal interesting things about a guy.
For example, a fell who is most like Batman might have issues with the amount of money he spends on big-boy toys like cars. Not that that’s always true, but it has some relevance.
Again, I’m not sure if those questions will work on the fella I’m going on the date with tonight. But I might try them anyway. (Folks, I’d say the super hero questions are probably better to ask a guy unless the particular lady you are on a date with is clearly into that sort of thing.)
Also, last night while I was getting into my pajamas it struck me that the moment I take off my bra is almost always one of my favorite moments of the day (damn you under wire!) and I think it might be a good idea to ask a date (male or female) what their favorite part of the day is and why.
But…really, that’s all I’ve got for now. So I need some more questions if I’m going to conduct a worthwhile interview over dinner tonight. HELP ME OUT!
(I wonder if her would be weirded out if I take notes? Yeah…probably. Drat!)
