More than Sex: Jake
Jake is 40, Single, never married, no kids. He works in hospital administration. We also have sex from time to time. Even though we aren’t in a relationship he still manages to make it special every time we are ‘together.’ However, I don’t think he believes in love in the same way I do — otherwise he would have fallen in love with me by now.
What makes a man decide he wants more from a woman than just sex? Or domestic favors?
Jake: Be more specific…are you asking me advice on a guy?…Is that why you have fallen off the planet…!
Me: Fallen off the planet? I’m still here. You’d know that if you tried to find me. And I’m asking about men in general although this is prompted by specific guys.
Jake: How about I come over…you cook me dinner we’ll have sweaty sex, then talk about it…
Me: That does sound nice. Except for the part about me cooking. Have you seen my kitchen? Tiny.
Jake: I am being silly…I can say it is easier to be around for the that stuff…the other…involves work! The adventure is lost for me…!
Me: You aren’t intrigued by the idea of really knowing someone?
Jake: Oh yes…for as long as there is fire!!
Me: Well I’m having a little dilemma surrounding sex right now. It’s the only thing any guy seems to want from me and they are everywhere.
Jake: Well…because guys want sex!! Women want sex…but they approach it different. Most guys aren’t healthy about it, and sometimes it is hard to have a healthy perspective on sex. You as a woman have more control, but you also lose more…
Me: I just have a lot more to me than just my vagina and I would think that were obvious and attractive. I would think a person would want that more and not just sex?
Jake: Of course you do…you are an amazing talent…you have great perspective and you’re nice. You have to make people see that…you have to ask for what you want from life! I cannot have passion if I don’t feel drawn…
Me: I have to ask for what I want? Who do I ask and how?
Jake: Any guy who is interested in your “wares”…Make people respect you…we all want sex…we (men) don’t have to be such turds about it. Having the opportunity to share that is a gift and that is often forgotten…
Me: Now you’re just trying to get me to have sex with you. J/K I appreciate your perspective. I’ll work on making people respect me.
Jake: Starts with yourself ;)
Me: Yeah, I like myself quite a bit. I might be okay there.
Jake: Well…I also like you quite a bit…
Me: Thank you. Seriously. And thank you for always allowing our encounters to be meaningful.