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How to Woo a Woman

December 4, 2006

I was looking at the archives of my college newspaper today at work and look what I found…
Some of you from my Freshman speech class may remember me teasing Aaron Thurston with something similar to this. I thought it was a riot and it triggered some flashbacks when I read it.

I also thought it might encourage conversations:

Romeo did it, Don Juan did it, Cyrano Deburgurac did it, even Dracula (in speech class I said Aaron Thurston, because he had recently hauled his amp across campus to serenade the beautiful Allison) did it. And now even you can woo a woman.

What is it to “woo” you may ask. To woo, by my definition, is using any action with the intent of gaining and retaining the romantic favor of another. Sounds simple enough, yet men everywhere are baffled as to how to even attempt this process. So let’s begin.

When in doubt, chase the girl

Now, I don’t mean stalk her. But I often find that the good guys — who any woman would care about — are the very guys who are constantly wimping out. Guys, you need to buck up and just chase the girl. Ask her out. If you don’t know if she likes you there is only one real way to find out — ask.

Being a chicken just doesn’t cut it. The worst that can happen is that she will say no, which is not the biggest failure in the world. If she says no, you can stop wasting your time thinking about her, and start thinking about another girl and how to pursue her rather than worrying like a wuss about some girl who doesn’t even know you exist.

Have a plan

When I say plan, I mean a definite plan. Know which restaurant you want to go to. Know what movie you’d like to see. Know who is picking who up or where you should meet for the date. Not deciding is just being a chicken. So don’t be afraid — just decide.

It’s up to you to be in charge. If you make a plan that she doesn’t like, she’ll tell you. If she doesn’t tell you she deserves to suffer through it and it isn’t your fault, although the point is to try to plan something she would like.

If you know this girl at all this shouldn’t be too hard. If you don’t know her very well, play it safe and go out to eat or to a restaurant. If you have major anxiety about her not liking your plans ask her about them before-hand so that there is no question. Or come up with several plans and let her pick between them.

Be yourself, but be a gentleman

She’s not one of the guys, so don’t treat her like a fella. You can have fun with a girl and still treat her special. In fact, it will probably be more fun for both of you. Give it a try.

Open the door for her. Let her order first. Pay for the date (unless you have arranged to go dutch beforehand or she offered to take you out).

It’s not all about you

So often men treat the first few dates like a job interview. Before you tell her all of the ways you are qualified to be her boyfriend, find out what she wants in a boyfriend, or even in a friend. Be conversational — most women love words and if you can find out about her without getting too invasive you’re well on your way to another date.

To really make an impression, be nice and say nice things. Guys shy away from compliments too often. If she looks nice, tell her. If she says something smart, tell her. If you let her know you think she’s special she will probably be interested in getting to know you better.

First and foremost: chase the girl

4 Comments leave one →
  1. August 29, 2010 11:11 am

    LOL, I think I’m getting it… You want guys to, um, chase the girl. Right?? Hehe. Thanks for posting these links on my blog, nice catching up on some old entries, and I like your theory. You should write the book!


    • August 29, 2010 12:10 pm

      Thanks Catherine! And thanks for letting me rant on your page. I’ll be ranting about it on my page soon and I promise to link to your blog when ! do. I think I’ll be linking to Beth (Midwestern Girl Dating) too because i recently ranted on her page.


  2. August 29, 2010 6:11 pm

    No problem! I’m a fan of your rants. haha 🙂



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