UnChristian: I’m Sick of Stupid Christians
I’m currently reading a book called UnChristian. It is an incredible book full of statistics and information about modern Christianity as seen by those on the outside. While this book focuses on “outsiders” it also comments that young people within churches feel the same way that a lot of the outsiders feel – and I’m one of them.
As I read this book I keep wanting to shove it in the faces of pastors and ministers I’ve encountered over the years and scream, “I told you! Why didn’t you listen to me!” All of the research that was done for this book (3 years worth) points to things I have been telling anyone who would listen for the past five years.
At first this made me feel great – aha! Vindication, at last! – But the more I think about it the more frustrated I become. I’ve known all these things for a long time and I have been thwarted every time I’ve tried to do something about it.
For example, I joined Oasis and tried to tell them. It was like throwing darts at a window. I couldn’t get through the glass and nothing would stick. My efforts were so incredibly ineffective that I felt like every time I expressed my opinions the response was something to the effect of, “Yeah, but…”
At times I actually took some solace in the idea that maybe I was just wrong, and it was better that my idea weren’t acted on. At least I tried to take solace in that idea. It just hurt and I’ve felt so ineffective in my church and in the community as a whole.
All along I’ve prayed about it. I have moments when I think it must be better that no one listens – otherwise someone would listen, right? Other times I’ve been convinced that something had to be done – but left clueless as to what needed to be done.
Today a Christian friend of mine said to me, “I’m so sick of stupid Christians.” At the moment, I am too. I feel really helpless. I actually spoke with an acquaintance about some of the issues within the book recently and I was treated like I just didn’t understand Christianity.
I find myself very frequently frustrated with the struggles between culture and faith. And I understand that elements of the struggle are unavoidable, but it is just so stark. And I feel torn. I don’t fit in the world and I don’t fit in church. I’ve really tried both in many ways and currently neither satisfies.
And currently I feel so rejected by the world of religion that I just want to scream or shake someone. Even some Christians that I find intelligent are really turning a blind eye to the problems I see. The problems the church is creating for itself.
Is there anything that can be done? Any ideas? Anyone?
I do feel sick, I do feel hopless and do feel like there’s nothing I can do — or at least like there’s nothing the church will alow me to do.
I know a lot of my readers aren’t Christians, so you don’t have the same perspective as me, but you see the problem, don’t you? What do you see?
And to my Christian readers, I know the idea that the church is purposely turning a blind eye to the problems is offensive. But it you will chose get over you offense, and look, please, tell me what you see?