Just Go With the Flow
I hated that when people used it they were implying that I was too rigid or that there was something wrong with me wanting a plan. I especially disliked the type of people who normally said this. I often found these people to be lazy or afraid of accountability. They didn’t want to make a plan and they didn’t want to have to stick to one.
Hedonists, layabouts, people who were content to do nothing and go nowhere. I was offended by their lack of desire and even more offended that they weren’t being punished for just “going with the flow” and not accomplishing anything.
Besides, what does this phrase even mean? It means I just want to do nothing. Or I thought that’s what it meant. It’s been used so much that it is virtually meaningless. Until recently it just seemed to me to be a way of avoiding responsibility and not a very deep idea beyond that.
But, what is the flow that a person might go with? In a social situation this could mean not making any decisions and just following the crowd. It could mean becoming apathetic about the direction that anything might take.
For example, “I don’t really care what happens in my company. I just go with the flow.”
It always felt like a victim mentality to me. A desire not to affect but to simply be affected. An excuse really.
But, what if going with the flow just means letting go of our attachments to outcomes. Still having a plan, but not being devastated if everything doesn’t go as planned. Okay. I can get on board with that. There are definitely things in life we can’t control and trying to control them is pointless. And exhausting.
It’s obvious to me that some things that are deep and meaningful become trite and lose their power through repetition. Maybe the idea of “going with the flow” is one of these ideas. But clichés often become cliché because they are true – so, maybe we should all “go with the flow.”
But in order to do that we need to really know what the flow is.
What if the flow is something more than the things we can’t control. What if the flow is the inevitable. The infinite. The unchangeable. What if the flow is the energy that connects us all. The great flow that we can be a part of if we jump into ourselves and into the river. And just ride.
It isn’t apathy for the sake of irresponsibility. It isn’t hedonism for the sake oblivion. Instead it’s sensation for the sake of life and connection to ourselves and others. Other ones. Other things.
It’s talking to the flowers and telling them they are beautiful and feeling them tell you you’re beautiful in return. It’s breathing like the wind breathes for the earth. But you have to really tap into the flow.
Some of you think this sounds crazy. I know. If you can’t feel it yet, it does sound crazy. But think about it, isn’t the wind inside of you? If you empty yourself out and just feel, don’t you start to float when it blows?
Aren’t the trees swaying in the sun along with you – and you with them if you just stop and “go with the flow?” Are the birds really chirping…or are you? Are they just saying those feelings you haven’t been able to get out of your chest?
And didn’t the last campfire you sat at burn with you? Can it? Are you burning too – even though you’re ignoring the heat you produce. The power you control. The flicker of your spirit. Our spirit. The Holy Spirit. This one…
Let go and you can go too…with the flow.